Have you come up with the perfect plan to get back together with your ex? Have you had a moment of clarity and you realize exactly what you need to do to get your ex back? There are many different methods that most of us think of in that moment of desperation. Usually, these plans are not unique and it's as if we all react in the same way after a breakup can come to the same conclusion as we grasp at straws to revive our dying relationship.
If any of these plans sound familiar then you are perfectly normal. This doesn't mean that any of these methods will help you to find success in getting back together with the one you love but there is hope. We all have to go through stages after a breakup. The stage that you are in presently was visited by many. We all come out the other side of this process better, stronger and, if we are wise, we are able to get back together with the one we love. We all get that opportunity. It's simply a matter of when and what you wish to do with that opportunity.
Now, logic might tell you that the best way to convince someone that your point of view is correct would be to discuss the topic. This might lead you to believe that talking with your ex would be the perfect way to win them back. Simply give them a convincing argument for why you should get back together and they will surely see your sincerity and that life would be better if the two of you reunited. This is also what couples therapy is all about. If it's good enough for other couples then why wouldn't it work for you? Conflict resolution is the topic and you are prepared to resolve the problems in your relationship. This should help you to get back together for sure.
The only issue that you might run into with this plan is that your ex has no interest in getting back together. They ended the relationship. That is how they resolved the conflict. They just gave up and decided to move on. Without a desire to be with you or an emotional tie to you and your relationship, talking will only make matters worse. Your ex may agree to meet with you and discuss when went wrong in your relationship but their goal will only be to make you see that the relationship is over. They might feel guilty for leaving you and allow you to speak your mind but you're never going to be able to convince your ex to fall in love with you again. Logic has no place in matters of the heart.
There's a pretty good chance that your ex gave you many reasons why they were ending the relationship. This list of grievances may have included many things that they couldn't tolerate about you. Offering to change or actually making changes in your life might seem like a great idea. After all, if you change all the things that your ex said were responsible for their departure then there would be no reason for the breakup. You would have removed the bad things about you and improved your life to suit them.
The problem with promising to change or making changes in your life is that, again, your ex doesn't care. Your ex left. They are done. They might be glad that you are solving these problems in your life or making changes in your life but right now trying to convince your ex to come back is useless. Also, talking about changing and actually making these changes over a long period of time are two different things. Don't simply talk about change. Make it happen. Don't promise to change things unless you can successfully see these changes through to the end. Your ex is very well aware of the fact that you want to get back together and that you're probably willing to do just about anything to make that happen.
Finally, you might come to the conclusion that if you were simply perfect then your ex wouldn't be able to help themselves and they would be moved to take you back. By simply being perfect in every way, you could charm the socks off of your ex and everybody would agree that you were the perfect match for them. You would write wonderful poetry or send them gifts as a way of apologizing for the past. You would show them how much you love them and your ex would be so moved by your display of devotion that you would break down that wall standing between the two of you and you'd live happily ever after.
Trying too hard and trying to be perfect is again perceived as being desperate and needy. Your ex loved you at one time because of who you were. They accepted you with all your imperfections and flaws. You don't have to be perfect for someone to love you. You simply have to be yourself. Save the grand displays of affection and devotion for the day when you know for sure that you have your ex back in your life. Save your money and avoid the heartache by holding onto those feelings and those clever ideas. There will be a day when your ex will appreciate your thoughtfulness and they will consider themselves lucky to have someone love them so much. Until your ex feels that love for you again, any attempt to force your love on them is going to be taken as an attempt to manipulate them.
If you have noticed, there is an underlying theme necessary for your success in getting back together with your ex. Your ex is only going to get back together with you once they feel a desire to do so. Once your ex feels love for you again, getting them back will be simple. It won't require any grand gestures on your part and you won't have to say a single word. Yes, there is still love in your ex's heart for you but pushing the issue or trying to convince your ex that their decision was wrong isn't going to nurture that love.
Given some time, space and understanding, your ex will realize that they do still love you. Don't worry. Relationships and matters of the heart are strange. Your ex very well might appear to feel nothing for you one day and then be overwhelmed with passion for you the next day. Trust that this day will come. Understand your ex's point of view and love them from afar for the moment. Your day is coming. You can and will get your ex back if you are patient and understand what your ex is going through at the moment.
If any of these plans sound familiar then you are perfectly normal. This doesn't mean that any of these methods will help you to find success in getting back together with the one you love but there is hope. We all have to go through stages after a breakup. The stage that you are in presently was visited by many. We all come out the other side of this process better, stronger and, if we are wise, we are able to get back together with the one we love. We all get that opportunity. It's simply a matter of when and what you wish to do with that opportunity.
Now, logic might tell you that the best way to convince someone that your point of view is correct would be to discuss the topic. This might lead you to believe that talking with your ex would be the perfect way to win them back. Simply give them a convincing argument for why you should get back together and they will surely see your sincerity and that life would be better if the two of you reunited. This is also what couples therapy is all about. If it's good enough for other couples then why wouldn't it work for you? Conflict resolution is the topic and you are prepared to resolve the problems in your relationship. This should help you to get back together for sure.
The only issue that you might run into with this plan is that your ex has no interest in getting back together. They ended the relationship. That is how they resolved the conflict. They just gave up and decided to move on. Without a desire to be with you or an emotional tie to you and your relationship, talking will only make matters worse. Your ex may agree to meet with you and discuss when went wrong in your relationship but their goal will only be to make you see that the relationship is over. They might feel guilty for leaving you and allow you to speak your mind but you're never going to be able to convince your ex to fall in love with you again. Logic has no place in matters of the heart.
There's a pretty good chance that your ex gave you many reasons why they were ending the relationship. This list of grievances may have included many things that they couldn't tolerate about you. Offering to change or actually making changes in your life might seem like a great idea. After all, if you change all the things that your ex said were responsible for their departure then there would be no reason for the breakup. You would have removed the bad things about you and improved your life to suit them.
The problem with promising to change or making changes in your life is that, again, your ex doesn't care. Your ex left. They are done. They might be glad that you are solving these problems in your life or making changes in your life but right now trying to convince your ex to come back is useless. Also, talking about changing and actually making these changes over a long period of time are two different things. Don't simply talk about change. Make it happen. Don't promise to change things unless you can successfully see these changes through to the end. Your ex is very well aware of the fact that you want to get back together and that you're probably willing to do just about anything to make that happen.
Finally, you might come to the conclusion that if you were simply perfect then your ex wouldn't be able to help themselves and they would be moved to take you back. By simply being perfect in every way, you could charm the socks off of your ex and everybody would agree that you were the perfect match for them. You would write wonderful poetry or send them gifts as a way of apologizing for the past. You would show them how much you love them and your ex would be so moved by your display of devotion that you would break down that wall standing between the two of you and you'd live happily ever after.
Trying too hard and trying to be perfect is again perceived as being desperate and needy. Your ex loved you at one time because of who you were. They accepted you with all your imperfections and flaws. You don't have to be perfect for someone to love you. You simply have to be yourself. Save the grand displays of affection and devotion for the day when you know for sure that you have your ex back in your life. Save your money and avoid the heartache by holding onto those feelings and those clever ideas. There will be a day when your ex will appreciate your thoughtfulness and they will consider themselves lucky to have someone love them so much. Until your ex feels that love for you again, any attempt to force your love on them is going to be taken as an attempt to manipulate them.
If you have noticed, there is an underlying theme necessary for your success in getting back together with your ex. Your ex is only going to get back together with you once they feel a desire to do so. Once your ex feels love for you again, getting them back will be simple. It won't require any grand gestures on your part and you won't have to say a single word. Yes, there is still love in your ex's heart for you but pushing the issue or trying to convince your ex that their decision was wrong isn't going to nurture that love.
Given some time, space and understanding, your ex will realize that they do still love you. Don't worry. Relationships and matters of the heart are strange. Your ex very well might appear to feel nothing for you one day and then be overwhelmed with passion for you the next day. Trust that this day will come. Understand your ex's point of view and love them from afar for the moment. Your day is coming. You can and will get your ex back if you are patient and understand what your ex is going through at the moment.
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