vendredi 24 janvier 2014

Essentials Ways On How To Deal With Bullying

By Nelda Powers


Bullying is a common problem that we have to deal with once in a while. Some of us have had to face off with bullies over a long period of time while for others it may just be an occasional problem. Bullying is defined as the habitual use of aggression to gain power over others. It also entails using coercion, threats, abuse and intimidation. Such behaviour is usually directed towards specific targets. The behaviour can often be explained by differences in race, religion, gender, class, size, strength among others. To deal with bullying, movements have been created and laws made, all in a bid to combat the rising suicide cases among teenagers.

The vice is broadly divided into three types. These include physical, emotional and verbal abuse. Each of these categories may be accompanied by violence, coercion, intimidation, insults or physical violence. There is a disproportionately high number of emotional abuse cases in females compared to their male counterparts. In the males, the predominant type is the physical abuse. Mockery is used almost equally in both sexes. It is frequently used when the victim resembles the opposite sex in their physical appearance or when they have any other physical disability or abnormality.

The act of bullying that can be used is that of direct and indirect. The former type involves the use of force against the individual. It includes forces such as pulling, kicking, biting, shoving and pushing. The indirect type, on the other hand, is mainly characterised by social aggression whose main objective is to isolate the victim. Negative publicity is a major tool used here.

So what do bullies stand to gain by hurting other people? That is the big question. The common denominator in a majority of the bullies is the low self-esteem among them. By acting aggressively towards other people, they conceal their weaknesses; it makes them feel better about themselves. The other reason for this aggression is jealousy. Some perpetrators simply are not happy about the success of their victim.

Some bullies may be obsessed with tormenting others because they suffer from psychiatric conditions. Bullies are usually characterised by high a temper and feeling too good about themselves outwardly though this may not be the case in reality. In addition, bullies report poor performance academically

Victims usually end up feeling depressed, lonely and unwanted. There self esteem is greatly lowered and gradually lose interest in life. In the long run, it can lead to post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Victims accumulate bitterness and hatred that may in future may present violently. The good side of bullying can be where victims are able to stand up for themselves and gain the respect of the people around.

There are many programs that one can enrol in if their children are being bullied by other children. The same can also be used by teachers and other persons who are responsible for the welfare of children. Peer counselling programs are now available in many places and have been shown to be very helpful to the victims and those who support them.

To deal with bullying, learn to adopt a defensive approach. Do not feel inferior to the perpetrator as this will only make them stronger over you. Ensure that you remain confident when your bully approaches and let them know that you are not an easy target.




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